We put out vibes, whether they’re subtle or in your face.
People can sniff us out and know more about our own motivations than we do. Some of us are advertising to the world we’re not ready for a relationship.
Here are the signs.
You’re too busy rehashing a previous relationship
Baggage City = Population 1.5
You’re still fully invested in someone who is long gone. It’s hard to get on the right path when you’re hell bent on not getting over it.
You’re too busy being miserable
We all know a shitty attitude and a deep-seated animosity towards the human race lays the groundwork for scores of people to chase us down and beg us to be in a relationship.
Nope. Not in this lifetime.
You’re worried about what your friends think
“My boys will think this chick isn’t hot enough.”
“My girls with think this dude is a total loser.”
You have to ask yourself who’s going to be in this relationship: me or my friends whose opinions really don’t mean anything at all?
You think people are expendable
“I can run out and find another just as quickly and easily as I found this one.”
“I don’t need a man because they’re all the same: worthless, untrustworthy and (insert disparaging remark here.)”
Maybe you’ve set your sights too high or too low. A healthy medium is always good.
You’re too anxious and impatient
“If I don’t get married by the time I’m 30 I may as well choke chug the cyanide and get it over with.”
Slow down. Nothing says “Back the fuck up” quicker than, “I can’t go another day without being in a relationship.”
You’re too picky
I’m picky. But there IS such a thing as being too picky. Especially when you’ve barely got enough wiggle room to be calling the shots.
You get no kudos or sympathy if you’re oblivious to making people run your obstacle course that’s designed to make them fail against your overblown expectations.
You’re far from optimistic
“Woe is me. I’m never going to find a man. I’m nothing in this world without a man. I’m nothing anyway. I guess that’s just how it is.”
Perhaps repeating this mantra to yourself serves a purpose: to keep you from reaching your relationship goals. If you can’t see the finish line, why run the race?